Be Friends with Your Children | illustrated | Funny


parents of teenagers parents of teenagers come to me all that you know I have my son he just doesn’t listen to me anymore can you talk to him like I have some prescription drug that I carry with me that you know or you know what it is I’m gonna the son comes over I’m gonna be like all of a sudden you’ll be this amazing kid you know if but if you just talk to him no no no what if you talk to him and where were you when there was time to talk to him let me tell you something about I’m gonna talked about parents first a little bit then I’ll talk about couples and that’s the only time we have two things two kinds of fundamental relationships your relationship with your children and your relationship with your spouse so we’ll talk about some very basic things in regards to both when your children are little when they’re little when they’re five six seven two three four you know what the most important thing is I have five of those I could tell you I could tell you the most important thing to them is your approval they want to make you proud man they want to show you what they did I’ll be on an important work phone call important work phone call and my son will come on by two-year-old come over abba-abba-abba Abba Abba like okay hold on what is it II Devon I’ll go back on the phone and he’ll start calling me again okay okay what is it I’ll show you something what do you want to show me that is it but you know what I’m supposed to do oh my god that’s awesome do it again I’ll call you back you’re supposed to appreciate what your children do they live for that they desire that more than anything else I have three girls and you know the difference between girls and boys boys can’t sit still and girls can’t stop this right so I picked my girls up from school ones in first grade the others in third grade I pick him up from so 25-million ride back home and what are they doing the whole way you know what happened today in class we colored a dinosaur and we did this and that and I was coloring a purple but I decided to put in some green and they’re going on and on and on and on and on and they cannot help themselves and they cannot stop and I have to pay attention and listen I have to listen so what about blue no I did only a little bit blue right I have to pay attention and you know why I’m saying all of this just one more story on the side just to wake you up a little I share the story all the time my oldest daughter my eldest what’s nice she’s uh when she was younger she was really into finger-painting so you dip her hands and pained and just making a big old mess right and she brings this big cardboard to me and it’s a big blob of blue I don’t see anything right and she says about look what I made and I’m sitting here going that’s awesome a mountain and she says no it’s mama and how’s it go don’t tell mama but the point I’m trying to make is they live for your approval live for it but those of you that have children that are teenagers do they get in the car when you pick them up from school and they can’t stop telling you about what happened does that happen now you know what happened in school today my teacher said this and that and the other and I got an a on my paper nope they’re quiet and you’re trying to know how was your day it was okay so what’d you do something where you going to this somewhere they don’t talk getting them to talk is like an interrogation at a police station and they’re not saying anything to you and while trying to ask them questions they’re texting their friend my dad is asking too many questions today you know I don’t know what’s up did you tell them something what I’m trying to get at is very simple at a younger age your children crave your attention and when they get older you will crave their attention but if you don’t give them attention when they’re tiny when they come to you with their toys and you say go in your room I’m watching the news the game is on could you take him please come on I had a long day at work I don’t want to deal with this right now we have some we have friends over it’s embarrassing go to sleep go get out of here when you have this attitude towards your children like they’re an obstacle in your path your job was at work when you come home you’re on vacation nobody your job began when you came home that’s your job what you did over there is just to fulfill your real job at home be a father I’m talking to the men here be a father spend time with your children they’re not just there so you think you can put up in school and you come home from work you just want to go to sleep you don’t want to bother buddy you don’t want to talk to them and actually the easiest way to not talk to them is get them an iPod Touch and an iPhone and get them a computer and a laptop in their own room with high speed internet so you don’t even have to look at their face let me just be in their room all day facebooking finding themselves a new set of parents online seriously be be a father be a mother don’t replace your motherhood in your fatherhood with these things because if you do when they become independent you know what happens to most parents to most of you your children they only see you as a bunch of dollar signs walking around and the only time they come and talk to you that can I have five bucks actually nobody asks for five bucks anymore right it’s 20s nowadays and I know I know you if they haven’t seen money that small they don’t know fives can I have $20 can I go to the mall can you drop me off can I go over to my friends house can I do this can I do that can I do the other when they want something they come to you otherwise you don’t see them and when they get to a certain age where they are old enough to make their own little bit of money guess what you’re not going to see them at all because your cash register is no longer relevant that’s no longer relevant if this is the relationship you are setting yourself up for you’re headed for destruction we got to change this now and the way to change it and it’s going to be hard for a lot of you to implement this but we have to be friends with our children we have to be their best friends they should enjoy hanging out with us the most the parents you you

100 Comments

  1. nicewarlock said:

    I laughed so hard at this. He has a very good sense of humor mashallah.

    December 21, 2014
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  2. Sawsan Rose said:

    Oh my Allah such a wonderful video, very educative,very inspiring,very realistic..Unfortunately most ย parents nowadays dont spend much time with their children. Consequently, their children transform into beasts when they are teenagers.. I'm sorry for that beasty expression.

    December 21, 2014
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  3. Miss Rashid said:

    Wow! Where do I find the full lecture?

    December 21, 2014
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  4. eeman muslimah said:

    Very educative video. May Allah rewards you.

    December 21, 2014
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  5. handsomethecat said:

    this is gold… barakAllahu feekum!

    December 21, 2014
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  6. arshad shah said:

    Jazzaq Allah khair

    December 21, 2014
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  7. Tasnia Reyad said:

    Love love love it….

    December 22, 2014
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  8. Aniss Loughlam said:

    JAK, to the very point. May ALLAH reward all who worked on it. Do you have full lecture?

    December 22, 2014
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  9. quixot1c said:

    Love this <3

    December 22, 2014
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  10. Hami H said:

    I really like that instead of eyes there's Arabic letters at some illustrations. It's a really good compromise between what we're used to in this age, and what is correct according to Islam. JazakAllah khair for sharing it in such a beautiful way.ย 

    December 23, 2014
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  11. Nur Yazmin said:

    Ouch snap! This is a powerful rmeinder. I'm not married yet, (and obviously no children yet) but I learnt a lot from this one. Jazakallah Ustaz Nouman and the NAK collection team

    December 23, 2014
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  12. Yasaf Mahmood said:

    Very nice things are highlighted

    December 23, 2014
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  13. Zahra Rashid said:

    Such a great video with AWESOME illustrations ๐Ÿ˜€

    December 29, 2014
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  14. alfia rahmi said:

    So inspiring, thanks ๐Ÿ™‚

    January 1, 2015
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  15. Md. Mozammel Hoq said:

    Very practical, great, thanks

    January 1, 2015
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  16. zam jed said:

    Wow… Quite beautiful…

    February 1, 2015
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  17. taqiyah said:

    I think the main problem with parents nowadays is that they like to see their children as a whole of what the society is now. like if their children misbehaves a little, they would think it's the influence and would assume their children has done all said influences without even starting a discussion or confirming it with their children. This is especially so when the child is at the teenager stage. I am not a parent yet but I have two younger sisters and a brother, it gets very tough to keep up with what they're up to even tho the age gap is 4-7 years but once you learn that even though they have interests like their friends, they are still their own individual and you can only learn that when you talk and communicate to them, I can still scold them when they do wrong but I can still talk to them and discuss. When you see a child as someone else entirely, that's when everything goes wrong in my opinion.

    February 2, 2015
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  18. Yllasville1110 said:

    As a teenage-ish daughter myself I can say that this is very true. I have a very strained relationship with my father. I know he loves me and I myself wish that we were closer. But I didn't receive that much attention from him when I was little and when I grew up I felt like he was a stranger that was my father by name. It's kind of sad.

    February 2, 2015
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  19. Maria show said:

    Amazing, barakallah lakoom with your deeds and good doings

    February 2, 2015
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  20. Iram Rahil said:

    this teaches me lots dee…

    February 8, 2015
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  21. Ghiz binthuda said:

    All the children want to be friend with their parents, but I guess the parents don't have time for that, they have appointments, meetings, important phone calls… until it's too late. This speech open my eyes, and I hope I can implement his words when I'll be a parent inshaAllah.

    February 19, 2015
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  22. Ismail Mustapha said:

    jazakallahu khayrah

    March 14, 2015
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  23. n4zm3Gaming said:

    I know im still a kid, but when I grow up, im gonna get married, and have kids and all that stuff. But that is Allah's qada'and qadar. But when Im having kids, im gonna apreciate my kids doings

    March 14, 2015
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  24. NANIE NANIE said:

    TQ SO MUCH ! MAY ALLAH ALWYS WITH U

    March 20, 2015
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  25. Ashraf manglore said:

    Masha Allah nice advice

    March 22, 2015
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  26. Fatma Yousuf said:

    can someone please link me the whole lecture?

    April 9, 2015
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  27. zafar kazi said:

    Jazkallah brother

    May 18, 2015
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  28. Anika Nova said:

    Please keep making more videos like this, so easy and relevent.

    May 21, 2015
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  29. Mushfika Mariam said:

    Yes! Its time to change ๐Ÿ˜’

    May 27, 2015
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  30. Fardosa gabow said:

    Its too late i lost connection with my parent i cant even talk ย them

    June 23, 2015
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  31. Huda H said:

    Amazing! ๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿ‘

    June 28, 2015
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  32. Nabihah Ahmed said:

    This makes me sad..

    July 20, 2015
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  33. Reyan Tesissa said:

    My father is a Christian and he lives in another state so when I try to talk to my mother even if I am a teenager she just shruggs me off and talks on the phone , changes the subject into what she wants. So now I am officially done with her I tried my best and I am 13 she just doesn't listen to me anymore. I guess I'm just a burden to her.

    July 25, 2015
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  34. Hamid el Bouazzaouyi said:

    I love FreeQuranEducation!!!!!!!! Mashallah!
    Those illustrations are amazing!

    July 29, 2015
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  35. Muhammad Ahmad said:

    There is a big difference between spending good time and spending big money on your children.

    August 24, 2015
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  36. Muhammad Ahmad said:

    I hate talking to my mum. And I don't even look at my Dad. We have a very strained relationship

    August 24, 2015
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  37. Muhammad Ahmad said:

    This has helped me with my terrible situation. Thanks for the video

    August 24, 2015
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  38. Bushra anwaar said:

    very true

    October 29, 2015
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  39. Bushra anwaar said:

    parents must communicate with their children

    October 29, 2015
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  40. Neta Eta said:

    MashaAllah ๐Ÿ’– truly reminder indeed

    November 20, 2015
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  41. Adnan Kaukovic said:

    I am friend with my daughter

    December 20, 2015
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  42. MJA said:

    This is really true. Growing up I had a little bit of both experiences from my parents. My mom wanted to know everything in my life, down to what kind of milk I drank at lunch. I'm an adult now and we still talk every day because this built a good relationship. I always want to know how I can help her or do something for her.

    On the other hand, my father and I almost never spent any time together. On any given day (even now) I only say three words to him: Dad, dinner's ready. He doesn't know anything about my interests, my job or my education. For years he didn't even know what school I went to. And now it's basically too late. It's like we are from different planets.

    Don't abandon you children or let your spouse always deal with them. It breeds resentment and loneliness in your children and that's when they'll seek out "Love" from other (often haram) sources.

    January 16, 2016
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  43. anwar jama said:

    my mom does a good job of being our friends ๐Ÿ˜Š

    March 2, 2016
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  44. Mohammed Rahman said:

    You are right,we have to be a good friend of ours children. Thank you for your advice.

    March 30, 2016
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  45. Mimi I said:

    It is an excellent video but I object the word friend. I understand that a lots of parent use this word but I fail to understand why friend is a more powerful word than a parent. Why messing up the identity of relationships? Why can't you be an understanding, supportive, loving parent? If you have these qualities why you need to be called a friend?

    May 3, 2016
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  46. karaoui laredj said:

    I agreeee with you shaykh

    May 9, 2016
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  47. Sajid said:

    I ask my parents for less than 2 bucks (20 thousand rupiahs) to buy something from the store o.O

    May 18, 2016
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  48. It's ZAYNAB said:

    I love it. So imotional

    June 10, 2016
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  49. It's ZAYNAB said:

    My mum is like a best best friend to me. And dad kind of

    June 10, 2016
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  50. Pug The Weirdo said:

    I am my dad's second best friend, his first friend is Allah. ๐Ÿ˜Š

    June 27, 2016
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  51. Ismat Mir said:

    Y

    August 6, 2016
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  52. Amara The Killer said:

    Im a teenager nd ur right…. BUT MY DAD ALWAYS SAYS I TALK 2 MUCH AND I NEVER STOP TALKING IN THE CAR. I WONDER WHY???…

    August 10, 2016
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  53. Saira Jawad said:

    MashaAllah

    August 27, 2016
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  54. Saira Jawad said:

    Your funny

    August 27, 2016
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  55. Wish Karo said:

    Where can i get the transcripts of these short reminders?
    Please someone help me with these?

    September 6, 2016
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  56. wahiba khalifa said:

    Yeah I used to love

    September 18, 2016
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  57. Nasreen Ebrahim said:

    So True.

    November 20, 2016
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  58. romaiseb said:

    May Allah bless the brother who spoke in this video. Finally a speech which teenagers can relate to instead of the typical 'respect your parents' lecture. Yes you should respect your parents but it's important that the needs of youths are respected too and that parents should also see things from our perspective instead of getting too caught up in their own bubble or their typical 'ideal child' view

    January 1, 2017
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  59. Nightingale of madina. N said:

    really my father's behavior is too bad to me….that's really i dont expect……why….???? I don't know…….

    March 14, 2017
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  60. Casimir said:

    XD so true

    March 22, 2017
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  61. The Panda said:

    From a young age I learned that nobody cared about what I had to say. I was never included in family discussions and my family would talk about me in the same room to other people as if I didn't exist. Now I'm 17 and plan on moving out as soon as I save up enough money from my job because my mom acts as if I'm a burden to her. This hurts a lot from the child's point of view to feel unseen, unheard, and as if anything you say will be disregarded. When your child doesn't speak to you it is because they've learned you don't care.

    Being a friend doesn't mean you don't set boundaries, quite the opposite. In healthy relationships people do just that, the difference for when you have a relationship with your child is that they reciprocate, like they should. If you don't show interest in them they see that as a normal boundary of your relationship, they will then mirror it and you won't be as close. As a general rule, if you see an unpleasant behaviour in your child or teen, it is a reflection of your parenting and how you act towards them.

    April 1, 2017
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  62. Firas Taher said:

    ู„ุง ุฅูู„ูŽู‡ูŽ ุฅูู„ูŽู‘ุง ุฃูŽู†ุชูŽ ุณูุจู’ุญูŽุงู†ูŽูƒูŽ ุฅูู†ูู‘ูŠ ูƒูู†ุชู ู…ูู†ูŽ ุงู„ุธูŽู‘ุงู„ูู…ููŠู†ูŽ
    …none has the right to be worshipped but You (O Allรขh)], Glorified (and Exalted) are You. Truly, I have been of the wrong-doers." (Al-Anbiya 21:87) Please forgive us and guide us. Please copy and paste.

    June 18, 2017
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  63. abdul hye said:

    shame to the 16 people who disliked

    July 5, 2017
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  64. Sunnat Nigmonov said:

    super

    July 14, 2017
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  65. OG. ogi said:

    what a Boss. May Allah bless him and his family

    August 9, 2017
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  66. Nada said:

    I wish to Allah that my future spouse knows this concept and be so understanding like Mr. Nouman A. ๐Ÿ˜€

    August 13, 2017
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  67. Anis Malik said:

    Thank you brother Nouman

    August 14, 2017
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  68. Abdul Hassan said:

    Great

    October 1, 2017
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  69. yakisoba said:

    Can i have a message about true friendship.. or problem to fix anger between friendship

    May 11, 2018
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  70. Blue Book said:

    Too bad my childhood wasn't like that. Not even now (teen)

    July 24, 2018
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  71. iโ€™m literally ur nan said:

    Alhamdullilah since I was little my parents were always supportive and always listened to everything I had to say and would always praise me. Now that I'm older I still have an amazing relationship with my mother and father and I feel like I can talk to them about everything and tell that what happened at school ect

    July 24, 2018
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  72. ayeza said:

    I remember my father used to tell me I'm your best friend you can talk to me about everything and don't hide anything. Now I'm a teenager and I don't hide anything from my parents, they don't even bother to question my activities because they have so much trust in me, which I will not break.
    I'm so lucky to have the best parents in the world <3

    August 8, 2018
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  73. Sayed Pritom said:

    Your Videos are GOLD <3

    September 28, 2018
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  74. Default Cube said:

    The moment I spotted the word: "funny" in the title,

    I knew it was a talk from Nouman Ali Khan

    November 27, 2018
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  75. Armina Mcsmbr said:

    ๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚

    December 5, 2018
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  76. Iqra Kalim said:

    Bhtreen

    December 31, 2018
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  77. Anne Shine said:

    I want to rise my kids like this

    February 15, 2019
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  78. aysh hafeela said:

    U should have more than million subscribers inshallah that day is not so farโค๏ธ this story relates me a lot inshallah in future ill definitely follow this๐Ÿ™‚

    February 22, 2019
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  79. halal Memes said:

    I love how they make the eyes the letters of the Arabic alphabet ๐Ÿ˜‚

    April 22, 2019
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  80. Lododia Dia said:

    I love this channel and your teaching โค๏ธ
    May Allah bless you and your family Aameen

    April 23, 2019
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  81. Fรกtima Sardar said:

    Nice story daddy and mom togheter with your childrens for good and right moments for play..for give education..

    April 23, 2019
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  82. Gaming for prodigy said:

    Yeah kids …….. I have five of those

    April 29, 2019
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  83. Byg Boi said:

    Tomorrow (when I get married ) .. I'll be the best father in the world.

    April 29, 2019
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  84. Alaa Muhammad said:

    ุฌุฒุงูƒู… ุงู„ู„ู‡ ุฎูŠุฑู‹ุง

    July 27, 2019
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  85. Saya Laper said:

    Im sad about what i get from my parents like opposit what video tell

    July 28, 2019
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  86. Tanvir Gameboy said:

    ๐Ÿ’ž๐Ÿ’ž๐Ÿ’ž๐Ÿ’ž๐Ÿ’ž๐Ÿ’ž๐Ÿ’ž๐Ÿ’ž

    August 27, 2019
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  87. ayaan said:

    This made me cry ๐Ÿ˜ข

    August 27, 2019
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  88. Fatimah Az-Zahra said:

    I know he pointed it out lightly-
    But the drug prescription thing is real scary
    My dad did it to my siblings
    Its the worst
    After few years
    There was brain damage and even parkinsons from these prescriptions
    Nightmare
    Its a heavy thing
    Real scary
    Its a fitnah on the youngsters
    Pray one day it will be banned for human rights or some saviour
    โ™ก=broken
    โ™ง

    October 4, 2019
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  89. Sahil Agasi said:

    Turns out this guy's the best parent ever

    October 5, 2019
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  90. Sadia Uddin said:

    How have 26 people disliked this video? Itโ€™s literally about raising your kids ๐Ÿคฆโ€โ™€๏ธ

    October 6, 2019
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  91. N .N said:

    Thanks for concern for teenagers.

    October 15, 2019
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  92. Gracy Jones said:

    I am my kids friend. I get told I need to not be by other parents all the time. But my kids 23, 20, 16, all are doing well and don't party, drink, smoke, date, and work hard. They are not perfect. But they come to me. As a single mom filling two roles, I think that's doing ok.

    October 17, 2019
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  93. Shadya Aly said:

    Sheikh Nouman Ali Khan the best as always

    November 18, 2019
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  94. truffaut650 truffaut said:

    Thanks god that I grew up like that.

    December 9, 2019
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  95. OnHighAlert1 said:

    kind of ridiculuous that you can't show a woman with her hair and not other her like she is not a Good Muslim. Even a 5 year old, what do they wear Hijab from the time they can walk in your mind?

    February 1, 2020
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  96. arif mainuddin said:

    Wow so important discussion

    February 8, 2020
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  97. Binti zulaikah Shifurah said:

    my best channel…free Quran education…and Iman ๐Ÿฅฐ

    February 15, 2020
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  98. Winter83 said:

    My parents are my best friends. Rabbir hamhuma kama rabbayani sagira.

    February 20, 2020
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  99. mahira naznin said:

    After seeing this video i can say that I am blessed with the best parents ever
    Thanks Allah

    February 29, 2020
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  100. Maryam Ahmed said:

    Like

    February 29, 2020
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